Monday, October 20, 2014

God, I Need Answers Because I Know I Am More Than The Labels Placed On Me

My blog has always been about transparency. Today, I will open up about my motivation to succeed in a male thriven world. Being the wife to a well-established man can be very intimating. You can easily get lost in his success that you place your dreams and aspirations in a secret closet and throw away the key. You can easily be categorized as “the stay at home wife” or even worse “the basketball wife”. I am here to take a stand and let people know that I am more than the labels they place on me.

It is a given fact that most of my likes on Instagram and Facebook come from me posting something about my husband rather than myself. Why is that? Am I simply a shadow and/or messenger? Am I simply a pretty face? I don’t think God created me to be a trophy wife or a mail lady [no offense to anyone that works in the postal industry]. Do I stop posting about my husband and force people to focus on whom the page belongs too? No, why should my husband have to suffer at the expense of other’s ignorance. God, I need answers.

How could people easily forget what I gave up to become these false labels they placed upon me? Don’t answer than. I will.

I am one of the hardest working women I know. I believe in myself even when others can’t see passed mediocrity. I strive on encouraging other women to follow their dreams and build their own empire. I give my support at all cause and willing to extend a helping hand. Those are characteristics embedded deep within me. It isn’t charity work to me and I am not expecting a favor later. I know God will always be there when I need a favor.

The lack of support, labels and passion are what motivates me. I am willing to make a believer out of anybody. Those who said I shouldn’t have left corporate America to support my husband, watch. Those who label me as “just some stay at home basketball wife”, watch. Those who think I’ll never be able to succeed, watch. Those who fail to show me support, watch.


"Thy name shall be called no more Jacob [instead of Jacob insert any labels people place on you]" - Genesis 32:27

Thursday, October 16, 2014

Enlighten Me or Get Out The Way #GirlBoss

I know many of you will look at the time frame of the video below and become discouraged to watch it or claim that you don’t have time to watch it. I want to remind you of two things; (1) knowledge is never instant gratification [it will require your time] and (2) you spend more than thirty minutes on social media daily. Now, if you choose to still not watch the video after I eliminated your excuses, all I ask is that you share this video with someone that wants to learn.

If I still have your attention, I wanted to share with you an interview with Black Enterprise conducted by the breakfast club morning show. It’s one of the most enlightening interviews I’ve watched in along time. It not only covered the black community but also entrepreneurial knowledge and women of power.


learned helplessness - black culture believe certain things are beyond us or we shouldn't be doing, even if they are good for you.

black women are the fastest growing entrepreneurial group in today's economy and women in general [all ethnicities] are more likely to invest 

women are more likely to start a business bc (1) the challenges of climbing the corporate ladder & (2) desire for multiple strings of income

60% of business owners are products of a lower middle class family or a poorer [if that's a word] family.

From the Forbes billionaire list to the feminine footprints on the economy, it’s clear women-led businesses are making powerful strides. But don’t get too comfortable. There’s still work to be done and many more barriers to break. We can do it. I want to motivate you to keep going, challenge you to be better, and urge you to think higher to accelerate your business.

Monday, October 13, 2014

Back To The Basic | Holding Yourself Accountable

It’s been a while since I’ve blogged. My decision in taking a break from blogging was intentional. I’ve been so busy with getting married, birth of my niece, the preparation work to launch my own business, moving and adjusting to life in a new country. I must say in the last two months my life has taken on a life of it’s own [if that makes sense]. I sometimes think I need an assistant lol but seriously it gets overwhelming at times. Please don’t make any mistake that this is a great overwhelming feeling. God is continuously blessing my family and I right now and I wouldn’t pray it to be any other way.

Now that I’ve been living in beautiful Hiroshima, Japan for two weeks, I am organizing a schedule that will allow me to get back to blogging. I want to continue inspiring others to pursue their dreams, using the site as an accountability partner for my fitness goals, share my overseas adventures [#MyOverseasDiary] and promoting my new non-profit organization #GirlBoss [which is scheduled to launch January 2015]. Did I forget to mention I am still in school and a new wife? Busy woman huh?  Again, at this point in my life I wouldn’t have it any other way.  Grind now and enjoy the luxury of my success later.

Today, was considered an off day for my husband and I. He didn’t have practice after winning both games this season opener weekend. GO HUBBY’S TEAM! 2-0 BABY! We spent the day sleeping in, caught up on all of our favorite shows, took a wonderful nap and prepared dinner together. In between the time spent together I was able to create a visualization board [something I’ve put off for awhile now]. I think having something to hold your goals accountable is important, therefore; this is the sole purpose for my vision board. With my 26th birthday less than a month away I wanted to create goals I intend to accomplish before turning 30. My visualization board can be located by clicking on the following link Mrs.Reed's Visualization Board

It’s the last quarter of 2014, LET’S GET BACK TO THE BASICS! Start preparing now for a successful 2015. You can also follow my adventures overseas in between blog post on instagram.

Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Humility Goes Along Way

I have spent the first half of my 20's being an egotistical snob and I am spending the second half making up for it [Humility does go a long way, doesn't it now?] First of many thing is my engagement has taught me that the world is not made up of only me [how I wish it did, though *wink*]. Secondly, failures and disappointments have taught me to keep moving. Nothing is about to stop just because I am having a bad day! [Dammit, why did I always believe I was a princess, then?] Thirdly, life has taught me - 'to each their own' ... in everything! If you don't help yourself, no one else is about to either.

I would like to share some inspirational words courtesy of Iyanla Vanzant.

"Loving yourself has nothing to do with being selfish, self-centered or self-engrossed. It means that you accept yourself for what you are. Loving yourself means that you accept responsibility for your own development, growth and happiness. When you love yourself, you pave the way for all you want and need to come to you at the right time in the perfect way".

Thursday, August 21, 2014

Lady Of Leisure [Part 2] - Watch God Work 1 Thessalonians 4:11-12

I think my single biggest obstacle of achieving everything I image in life are my feelings [emotions].  Seriously, if I take a moment to reflect on why I have [or have not] achieved something, I can make a clear connection to my emotions.  Sometimes, my feelings drive me to being relentless until the outcome is mine. Other times, I don't feel like taking any action and suffer the consequences. 

Either way, I'm realizing how critical it is to become someone who is fully in control of my emotions because I KNOW THAT EMOTION IS A PRECURSOR TO ACTION.  Without the right emotion, I won't take action. Too often I toggle back and forth between being fully motivated to conquer the world and feeling like doing absolutely nothing.  Then there are the times when I'm taking a ton of action and don't see the results then suddenly lose the motivation to keep going.

Ideally, I would like to face each day, each task, with a consistent sense of resolve.  Knowing that I made a promise to myself and not wavering, or backtracking simply because I know longer feel like it. I want to be the person who hears the internal voice and totally disregards it. The person who works out even though they don't "feel like it." The person who writes every day.  The person who works on their passion seven days a week without [yet] seeing one cent of profit.

The voice will never go away.  Let's all agree on that.  It's not about making the voice disappear.  The greater victory is in how to DO WHAT IS NEEDED TO BE DONE REGARDLESS OF WHAT THE VOICE IS TELLING YOU.

I've been blessed with the platform to accomplish everything my heart desires, while still supporting my husband and his dreams full time. I have a list of goals to accomplish our first year of marriage. 

"Make it your goal to live a quiet life, minding your own business and working with your hands, just as we instructed you before. Then people who are not believers will respect the way you live, and you will not need to depend on others" - 1 Thessalonians 4:11-12

Monday, August 18, 2014

Pathway To Purpose - Believe In Yourself

Why is it that we are afraid to do things, take risk and move forward in life when we know in our hearts that it will be to our benefit. Is it because we are comfortable where we are or maybe we scared of what others may think? Whatever the reasoning, it might be the very thing that’s holding you back from greatness. I believe most of us are destined for greatness. There are times when I dream about ideas I’d like to accomplish and then I fail to take the proper steps to execute. Even if I know the idea alone is awesome. It all boils down to the fear that what we believe in so deeply, might not be perceived the same by others and of course failure.

It also takes a small team to help you with the process of pursuing your dream, you just have to take the first step. I was watching Sharon Stone on Oprah’s life class and she said something that stood out to me, “LET LIFE HAPPEN”!

She went on to say why admired Magic Johnson so much. She said it was because he knew he needed his team to win and he also trusted them. She called it the no look pass and that is what attributed to them winning many championships over time. 

See we have to love ourself first then learn to be able to trust someone wholeheartedly; once that takes places, your other teammate can feel it and you all become in sync. Others will know you’re confident and mean business. Once you have that person in your life, you’ll be able to move forward without fear and start conquering the game of life.

Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Life As A Lady Of Leisure...

I first and foremost would like to apologize for my lack of blogging. As many of you can understand; the closer your wedding approaches, the less time you have for anything else. I will begin this blog by recapping my wedding, honeymoon and then talking about my future plans.

The week before and on my actually wedding are moments I will cherish with me forever. Not many people are fortunate enough to say that their parents and stepparents get along, but this girl can! Imagine both parents, stepparents and siblings in one mini-van running around a city completing wedding task. I WAS HAVING THE TIME OF MY LIFE! We all laughed and cracked jokes on one another like one big happy family. I am sure Charlotte is sick of all of us but we don't care. Next time the city will prepare for all of us at once.

On my actual wedding day, I can say the schedule I created went exactly as planned. All the last minute changes came together so perfectly. Not one thing interfered with timing. My special day was absolutely magical. I couldn't have dreamed of anything better. All the feedback Omar and I received from our guest let us know they felt the same way too. It was something out of a fairytale. 

To my parents,
"I would like to thank you so much for giving me the wedding of my dreams. Not only financially but through your support and hard-work. I couldn't have pulled off something so beautiful if it was for your constant sacrifice of time and patience. The four of you played a major role in the success of giving your daughter away and I will be forever thankful of that. You can now rest as I am in good hands."


My honeymoon was a week of a lifetime. It started with a sixteen hour drive halfway across the country with my new husband. He did all the driving and I did all the sleeping lol. We were driving all of our gifts and purchases back home (down fall of having an out of state wedding). During our riding we became rappers, I learned how to read a map (in greater detail don't try to play me), discussed our year/five year plan, goals and personal life. We decided to spend the night in Baton Rough after a 11 hour drive time. THE HOTEL WAS AMAZING! One of the best rooms I've ever stayed in. They also had the best breakfast buffet. This girl loves to eat!

Once arriving back home in Houston; we had enough time to shop for honeymoon attire, whataburger, some house maintenance, one hour of tv, unpack to repack and a nap before our flight at 7AM. We were off to Punta Cuna as husband and wife. I won't give you blow by blow but I will say even though I was sick most of the time I HAD THE TIME OF MY LIFE. I fought through my sickness in order to enjoy every activity we had planned. I promised my husband that I would be open minded and that I was. We swam with sharks, sting-rays and dolphins, we zip lined a crossed mountains and jumped off rocks into an ice cold cave filled with water. I don't think it gets any more open minded for an individual in one week. Again is was all a fun and memorable week. 

We concluded our honeymoon in Miami. We enjoyed the day of South Beach and American food. I think we turned into mermaids all the water we endured this week. 

I can honestly say this is only the beginning. This blog is already long than I would have hoped; therefore, I will focus on my future plans next blog. Just prepare yourself for our takeover!