Monday, January 26, 2015

Finding Home For Yourself (Career, Life and Leadership) – Oprah Winfrey #GirlBoss

On December 31st, I ended the year without a sense of drive. I wanted my first accomplishment in the New Year to be about focus and growth. I spent the first twenty-one days of the year fasting social media. I eliminated social media in order to allow God to come into my life and take over. I asked for God to show me the error of my ways, make my purpose clear and strength my mind to conquer the year ahead of me. During my break from social media I watched an interview on Oprah Winfrey that open my thought purpose on being “Intentional”.

In the interview I posted below, Oprah did a controversial episode, early in her career, where she brought a husband, wife and his girlfriend on her show. Unbeknownst to Oprah, the husband decided on live television to tell his wife that his girlfriend was pregnant. Oprah immediately felt the wife’s embarrassment and shame. She knew from that point her show needed change. She would no longer be used by television but she would use television for good. She asked herself how could she use this platform to speak to the world? How did she want to see change in the world? How does she want to impact the world?

As much as I hate to admit, I realized I started an organization called Leadership in Full Effect to fulfill a sense of satisfaction within myself. To feel like I was bringing a sense of accomplishment to the table my husband lays all his achievements on. Please don’t be mistaken, being a nonprofit founder has always been a dream of mine but I questioned my motives behind the timing. Until, I watched this interview I didn’t understand how dishonest and selfish I was being. That’s when God directed my attention to this interview. If I was going to start this organization right now, I must be intentional in all my discussions. I am taking “innocent” lives in my hands; therefore, I will not do anything unless I have fully thought out my intentions. For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction and what propels the action is the intention.

When I removed my selfish ways out of the equation, God poured his own accomplishments in my life. The first two days after my fast ended I received incredible news. My hard work is paying off and my heart is definitely in the right place. I will continue to pray that my heart stays focused on God's work. It's easy to get caught up on yourself but that's not what we were put on this Earth for. There is a bigger picture than ourselves.

I pray you watch this interview and it answers or reveals something deep within of you.

Monday, December 22, 2014

Create A Culture Of Selflessness - James Chapman

I would first like to introduce James Chapman. He is not only my husband’s college teammate, a groomsmen at our wedding but also an incredible entrepreneur. James is the owner of a small business in Chattanooga, Tennessee known as Change-N-Go. Change-N-Go is an innovative way to complete the oil change process for your vehicles without all the hassle. James has introduced a company to the world that provides the luxury of a mechanic coming to your convenient location and changing your vehicle’s oil. You can find out more information about his company at

Unfortunately, I am not here to sale you on his oil change business. I am here to discuss his passion for knowledge. James believes you can’t aim too high, but you can aim too low. Using an authentic energy that is perfectly matched with a high level of respect and understanding, James possesses a distinctive experience and captivating style that resonates with both youth and professional audiences. He eagerly continues to spark interest, challenge minds, and create real, lasting impact in his global community.

James has a sincere interest in people that allows him to share wisdom that sparks thought provoking awareness in his audience. Below you can check out his latest speech “Create a Culture of Selflessness” and don’t forget to purchase his book #TheHustle which features myself.

Thursday, December 18, 2014

Experience Abundance – Intentions for 2015

Every once in a while, I'll assign a theme to the upcoming year.  This year will be "The Year of Abundance!"  I'm not just talking about financial abundance. I want 2015 to be the year where I abundantly experience everything I desire.  Abundance of laughter, experiences, creation, joy, giving, inspiration, all of it!  I just want my life to overflow with abundance.   One way to ensure that happens is to constantly express gratitude for everything.  Everything.  When I remain in a place of gratitude, I receive even more.  To him who has, more will be given.  So I intend to remain in a constant state of being grateful for everything/everyone I have.

I heard a successful businessman once say that by the 15th of each month we should already have our goals ready for the following month. With a little over two weeks left in the year, I thought now would be a great time to create an intentions list for the year to come. Next year, I'll be focusing on "who I become" versus obtaining physical items.  If I place full focus on becoming the person I want to be, everything else will fall into place.

So far, here are the intentions I wish to experience in 2015 and beyond.  It's kind of like my online vision board.  Take a look…

Always Look Your Best

My first priority for the New Year is to place lots of effort on my physical presentation.  I've slacked mightily in this area but I got the wake up call of my life after having an impromptu conversation with a young lady who put everything in perspective.  Looking your best is a form of investing in yourself. I believe that if we make this a priority for ourselves that our lives will CHANGE.  New people, experiences and opportunities will come our way that wouldn't otherwise.

Elevate Your Environment

I probably should dedicate an entire post to the power of creating an ideal environment.   But for the time being, I want to declare that in 2015, I will constantly be working to elevate the environment of my home.  I desire a clean and clutter free space that fosters creativity and inspiration.  That is what I will be creating in 2015.

Enjoy Healthier Hair

I have high hopes for my hair in 2015.  Micro-trimming has been working out well for me and I imagine that I'll see the full benefits of it 6-9 months from now.  This year I'll also try other methods of length retention such as braid outs and satin scarf sets.  And of course, I'll plan to stay heavily focused on moisturizing and sealing.

Travel To Amazing Places

My last year was spent traveling to Japan, California and North Carolina. Since we live away from so many family members our spare time is spent traveling to see them. As a result, I haven't really done any "pleasure travel" in the past couple of years [outside of our honeymoon].  This year, I want to visit at least one new city (or country).  Better yet, I want to make exotic travel a part of my life.
Disclaimer: None of these pictures belong to me. They were used for blogging purposes. 

Monday, December 15, 2014

Leadership in Full Effect ...

The Co-founder and Chief Executive Officer of Leadership in Full Effect, Jelicia Reed, has the ambition to empower teens transitioning into young adults. Jelicia understands that our future depends on the preparation and success of this generation. Born and raised in California and then relocating to Texas in her high school years, Jelicia identifies with the importance of a firm foundation and support system. She intends to assist the youth in the areas of educational and mental growth, healthy social choices and encouragement of their dreams. She holds a passion for mentoring and truly affecting the hearts and minds of young adults. The founding of this organization is a special accomplishment and unique way to allow Jelicia to utilize her own personal experiences to inspire the youth to follow their dream. 

Ever since I can remember God has given me the heart of giving. I not only give financially to charities, organizations, school drives, holiday fundraisers, shelters but most importantly I give my time. That’s when I knew at a young age that starting a nonprofit organization was apart of my purpose in life.

Leadership in Full Effect [L.I.F.E.] is a federally recognized 501(c)(3) nonprofit and incorporated organization compassionately dedicated to enriching the lives of our future generation by equipping them with the knowledge, mentorship, resources and community support.

Our objective as an organization will be to help empower the youth in all aspects of life; academics, sports, college preparation, self-esteem and their transition into adulthood.

For more information please visit our website and also follow us on Twitter and Facebook.

Monday, December 8, 2014

Vulnerability in the Darkest Hour...

When I write I come from a place of compassion. I share my life experiences with you because I want you guys to see yourself in me. We all share the same stories just simply in different ways. We all hurt and have hurt someone at one point in our lives. We all want to be successful, happy, loved and appreciated. The thing is that while we are on this journey on conquering all our hearts desires, there are bumps in our path. Through those bumps we are to take the lesson out of it with a smile, we are to teach others and share our experiences so that we can help others know that they are not alone.
My life passion is to not only talk to others but uplift them as well.  Even in my darkest hour, even if it takes me exposing myself, being venerable and not being perfect. I don’t want to be perfect. I want to learn, grow, teach and spread compassion and kindness to everyone I meet. 

No matter what the situation is in your life; a death in the family, the betrayal of someone you trusted or not knowing what’s next for you in your life, please know this for sure, that you must continue to spread a light that shines within you even though pain. Trust in God, know yourself and listen to that inner voice. Don’t fall in the traps that are set for you they will for sure set you back. Instead prosper, work on you…  finish it off with success and a smile.