Thursday, December 18, 2014

Experience Abundance – Intentions for 2015

Every once in a while, I'll assign a theme to the upcoming year.  This year will be "The Year of Abundance!"  I'm not just talking about financial abundance. I want 2015 to be the year where I abundantly experience everything I desire.  Abundance of laughter, experiences, creation, joy, giving, inspiration, all of it!  I just want my life to overflow with abundance.   One way to ensure that happens is to constantly express gratitude for everything.  Everything.  When I remain in a place of gratitude, I receive even more.  To him who has, more will be given.  So I intend to remain in a constant state of being grateful for everything/everyone I have.

I heard a successful businessman once say that by the 15th of each month we should already have our goals ready for the following month. With a little over two weeks left in the year, I thought now would be a great time to create an intentions list for the year to come. Next year, I'll be focusing on "who I become" versus obtaining physical items.  If I place full focus on becoming the person I want to be, everything else will fall into place.

So far, here are the intentions I wish to experience in 2015 and beyond.  It's kind of like my online vision board.  Take a look…

Always Look Your Best

My first priority for the New Year is to place lots of effort on my physical presentation.  I've slacked mightily in this area but I got the wake up call of my life after having an impromptu conversation with a young lady who put everything in perspective.  Looking your best is a form of investing in yourself. I believe that if we make this a priority for ourselves that our lives will CHANGE.  New people, experiences and opportunities will come our way that wouldn't otherwise.

Elevate Your Environment

I probably should dedicate an entire post to the power of creating an ideal environment.   But for the time being, I want to declare that in 2015, I will constantly be working to elevate the environment of my home.  I desire a clean and clutter free space that fosters creativity and inspiration.  That is what I will be creating in 2015.

Enjoy Healthier Hair

I have high hopes for my hair in 2015.  Micro-trimming has been working out well for me and I imagine that I'll see the full benefits of it 6-9 months from now.  This year I'll also try other methods of length retention such as braid outs and satin scarf sets.  And of course, I'll plan to stay heavily focused on moisturizing and sealing.

Travel To Amazing Places

My last year was spent traveling to Japan, California and North Carolina. Since we live away from so many family members our spare time is spent traveling to see them. As a result, I haven't really done any "pleasure travel" in the past couple of years [outside of our honeymoon].  This year, I want to visit at least one new city (or country).  Better yet, I want to make exotic travel a part of my life.
Disclaimer: None of these pictures belong to me. They were used for blogging purposes. 

Monday, December 15, 2014

Leadership in Full Effect ...

The Co-founder and Chief Executive Officer of Leadership in Full Effect, Jelicia Reed, has the ambition to empower teens transitioning into young adults. Jelicia understands that our future depends on the preparation and success of this generation. Born and raised in California and then relocating to Texas in her high school years, Jelicia identifies with the importance of a firm foundation and support system. She intends to assist the youth in the areas of educational and mental growth, healthy social choices and encouragement of their dreams. She holds a passion for mentoring and truly affecting the hearts and minds of young adults. The founding of this organization is a special accomplishment and unique way to allow Jelicia to utilize her own personal experiences to inspire the youth to follow their dream. 

Ever since I can remember God has given me the heart of giving. I not only give financially to charities, organizations, school drives, holiday fundraisers, shelters but most importantly I give my time. That’s when I knew at a young age that starting a nonprofit organization was apart of my purpose in life.

Leadership in Full Effect [L.I.F.E.] is a federally recognized 501(c)(3) nonprofit and incorporated organization compassionately dedicated to enriching the lives of our future generation by equipping them with the knowledge, mentorship, resources and community support.

Our objective as an organization will be to help empower the youth in all aspects of life; academics, sports, college preparation, self-esteem and their transition into adulthood.

For more information please visit our website and also follow us on Twitter and Facebook.

Monday, December 8, 2014

Vulnerability in the Darkest Hour...

When I write I come from a place of compassion. I share my life experiences with you because I want you guys to see yourself in me. We all share the same stories just simply in different ways. We all hurt and have hurt someone at one point in our lives. We all want to be successful, happy, loved and appreciated. The thing is that while we are on this journey on conquering all our hearts desires, there are bumps in our path. Through those bumps we are to take the lesson out of it with a smile, we are to teach others and share our experiences so that we can help others know that they are not alone.
My life passion is to not only talk to others but uplift them as well.  Even in my darkest hour, even if it takes me exposing myself, being venerable and not being perfect. I don’t want to be perfect. I want to learn, grow, teach and spread compassion and kindness to everyone I meet. 

No matter what the situation is in your life; a death in the family, the betrayal of someone you trusted or not knowing what’s next for you in your life, please know this for sure, that you must continue to spread a light that shines within you even though pain. Trust in God, know yourself and listen to that inner voice. Don’t fall in the traps that are set for you they will for sure set you back. Instead prosper, work on you…  finish it off with success and a smile.

Thursday, December 4, 2014

I Refuse to Let Anyone Make Me Feel Bad About Being So Blessed… #GirlBoss

Now many of you will read this title and immediately think, “Who does she think she is?”. Great question you’ve asked. I am not the woman whom walks around thinking I am all that [and a bag of chips] and everyone is hating on me. HOWEVER, I am the woman that has allowed people to make me feel bad because I am blessed. My husband and I are two of the hardest working people I know. Not only do we work hard but we also understand the value in temporary discomfort and sacrifice. We are two of the most prayerful people I know. We understand without God as our foundation and leader, we cannot accomplish and maintain anything. You can accomplish anything outside of God’s will but doesn’t mean it will be yours for long. Therefore, we continuously pray for clarity, guidance and wisdom. Yes, one of us may fall short of walking in faith at times but this is why we are a team. The other is there to remind you, “Look how far we’ve come by relying solely on God, why stop now”.

When you discover your passion and purpose in life you tend to realize certain things are no longer for you. You realize how certain people are unnecessary in this season of your life, you realize certain things are no longer important and you definitely begin to realize all the unproductive time you’ve wasted. Striping yourself of this unnecessary baggage will help prepare your FOCUS. [That’s another topic for another day … back to scheduled topic].

I will no longer allow people to make me feel bad for how blessed I am. I work hard day in and day out. Your slick comments and opinions are unnecessary. “Her dad paid for her wedding”, “She wouldn’t have all of that if she wasn’t with a ball player” and my favorite “She is able to accomplish these things because doesn’t work”. [I swear I literally just laughed out loud]. You think all these things happen in my life by mistake? You don’t think through my faith, patience and hard work got me here? You don’t think God has these things planned out for me?

I am no different from the next person. I was just a small girl raised in Orange County, California, that knew I wanted the best life God had planned for me. I was willing to do the work God placed in front of me to get there. I refused to settle or lower my expectations for anyone, including myself. I was willing to feel temporary discomfort and sacrifice to achieve success. I haven’t even reached the level I desire, so if you are uncomfortable now, you better unfriend and unfollow me. I will not stop. The only thing I will stop is allowing others to make me feel bad for a life I’ve worked hard for.

All things are possible when you move from a place of being centered, God fearing and having your priorities together” - Tyrese

Monday, December 1, 2014

Not His Purpose, Not My Purpose, But Our Purpose. #MyOverseasDiary

Where do I begin? My honest place…

I’ve now been in Hiroshima, Japan for two months and never did I imagine I would make it this long. I struggled in the beginning with my new life in Japan due to the culture shock. I can only imagine everyone who moves to another country for the first time experiences the same feeling. Living abroad requires you to change your whole mind frame and dive into your new life. Easier said than done.

My new husband and I had many disagreements [he hates to call them arguments] about me being in Japan. Since I was struggling with my purpose in Japan, I didn’t grasp the importance of me being here. I was so use to my husband being overseas and me back home living my normal life. Not that I enjoyed my husband being away, I had simply grown accustomed to the lifestyle we had. So, this year him wanting to change the norm and have me move full-time with him sounded easier than it actually was.

In our many disagreements my husband defended and fought for me to be here and I was so willing to give up. I found every excuse under the moon as to why it was best that I return home but that only caused him to fight harder. That’s when I joined an international basketball wag bible study and shared my struggle with ladies who could empathize with me. That’s when a veteran wag said this statement that stuck with me,

“When you get married you no longer have his purpose and your purpose, you have one purpose. If your husband needs you overseas, it is for a reason. If God brought you to Japan than it is to serve a purpose as a married couple. What is for you, no man can take from you. So, if God has you in Japan, than you are not missing anything back in the states, because if it was for you than you would be there”.


Have you ever read the words of the bible but failing to walk them? The words she said I’ve read a plethora of times in my bible but for some reason I struggled to put my knowledge in action. Honestly, from that day forward my life was forever changed; Japanese language classes became more meaningful, adapting to the culture became easier and I was finally enjoying my experience in Japan. It’s going on three weeks that I haven’t complained about anything in Japan, I’ve accepted Japan for all it has to offer me. My faith has never been its strongest until this point. I am reading my bible and three different devotionals everyday. At the halftime of each game I am using the Japanese I've learned to thank the fans for their tremendous support. I am making friends and exploring different cities. I am living out our purpose on a different continent.