Tuesday, April 15, 2014

Eating To Feel Good

Ever have an experience where you've given into a junk food craving?  For me, the culprit is usually crunchy, salty snacks.  And, as of this moment, I've been weak for Girl Scout Thin Mint Cookies.  The promotion that only comes once a year so when it's available, I take full advantage.  The other day a craving came on and I listened.  Just as I was finishing off my last cookie, a sensation came over me.
Suddenly, I became aware of how I was feeling.  Simply put, I didn't feel good.  And I'm not talking about the "I feel guilty for eating deep fried foods" feeling.  It was more of, "this doesn't actually make me feel good."  Then I asked myself, "why am I eating this?"  After a moment of thought, I realized that it was a simple craving that led me to this meal.
Yesterday, I stopped by Walgreens .  While searching the store, my eyes caught a glimpse of the 3 boxes of candy for $3 and I thought "why not?"  After eating a few of one box and a few of another box, I was overtaken by that same feeling.  Suddenly, I was confronted with the voice that asked said, "this tastes good but how do you feel?"   "How does this food make your body feel?"  When I searched inward, I noticed that after the food passed my taste buds, there was no additional reward. For the first time I truly understood what they meant by empty calories.  Left with no other choice, I gave all the remaining candy away.
Other times during the same week, I had ate salads, drank smoothies. Each time I realized,  that even though it may not have stimulated my taste buds like "junk foods,"  these foods impacted my body in a different way.  At the end of the meal, I felt fulfilled, not just full.  More and more, I'm becoming aware of this.  Literally, as I'm snacking on my favorite treat, I notice that the moment the food is swallowed, the pleasure I received in consuming it is gone.  Not to mention the long term effects of eating this way.   I'm going to explore this a little more.  With every meal I eat, I will pay close attention to how I feel my body responds to what I'm eating.  Not just my taste buds, but my entire being. I'm tired of feeling sluggish, heavy, unfulfilled after eating something that was supposed to be so pleasurable.  It's time to try something new for a change.  I'm sure my body has been trying to tell me this all along.  But now, I'm ready to listen.

Monday, April 7, 2014

Replenishing Your Wagon: Bring Your Desires into Existence ...

I want to share a story with you.  About two years ago, I was walking around a city park. At the time, I was struggling with the lack of progress with my goals and intentions. It seemed like I was struggling to achieve the things I wanted in my life. Then suddenly, I was stuck with a thought that changed the course of my life forever.

As my walk was coming to a close, I glanced around to realize the park was surrounded by beautiful homes. The rear of the homes backed up to the park, so that's mainly what you saw, but you could still tell they were indeed beautiful. Just ahead of me where a group of school children taking part in an outdoor activity. One of the chaperone's/teachers was a young lady who embodied some of the qualities I wanted to have. Her hair was long and healthy, her skin glowed, she was fit. Within seconds, I was confronted an image of my dream house and of how I wanted to look and feel. As you could imagine, I started feeling down on myself because none of it rang true for me. "Why can't my life be like that?" I started to think as I focused on all the lack in my life.

Then, as quickly as I focused on what was "wrong," I started to realize my power in the situation. Suddenly, I asked myself, "what can I do to bring what I want into reality today?" Meaning, even though I do not have the outcome yet, I could still do things today that would make my current reality look more like the one I wanted.

That very day, I went home and went to work.  Immediately, I did everything within my power to make my current environment look like the one I wanted. I didn't have my dream house and wasn't in the position to buy one at the moment so I asked myself. "What can I do to make it feel like I have a new house?" The  answer to that question was to clean and organize my current apartment.  And that I did.  I made sure that every time I stepped into my apartment, it would make me feel as good if I were stepping into my own home.  After caring for my current apartment consistently for weeks, I decided to bring it up a notch by doing research; what is the cost of a new home, what area would I buy a home in, what are the qualifications to purchasing a home. I even took the time to visit different areas and model homes, this was my way of brining my future home into existence.

 I made my laptop lock screen an image of a sold sign in front of a gorgeous home.  In brining it into reality, I started saving for my new home. I didn't know when God would bless me with the opportunity to purchase my first home but I wanted to be ready. As I began saving, I stilled would purchase fresh flowers and candles for my apartment. Thinking of new ideas I would do had this been my dream house.

Then, I thought about the vision I held physically for myself and decided to immediately put new habits into practice.  I vowed to regularly treat myself to a mani/pedi, gave myself facials, do my hair and made the decision to look my best every day (whether I felt like it or not).  I had one job to do, and that was to make outer appearance look like the vision I had for myself.  This mission also led me through an intense skin care journey which created results I would never have imagined. This theory of bringing my desires into reality was also put into practice with my fitness journey.

Lately, I realize that I haven't done this much.  My results were so amazing last year that I allowed myself to lose focus on the process.  Having realized this, I'm ready to get back on track.  My focus, this year, is to paint my life's picture so it's mirrors my vision. They say that "feeling as though you already have it" is crucial in evoking the Law of Attraction. For me, creating those feelings from a simple visualization is a little difficult. Visualization may work well for some, but I struggle sometimes.  So I do this technique as a bridge to join what I want with the current reality. Vision Boards are great tools but I see this process as bringing it one step closer to making it real. This method of brining it  into existence works like a charm.

Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Replenishing Your Wagon: God Isn't Looking For A Quickie

John 17:3 (NLT)
And this is the way to have eternal life—to know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, the one you sent to earth.

I need a quickie. I'm feenin' for you, but I don't want to have any pillow talk afterwards. I just want to get some and bounce. No foreplay. Just give me what I want and you can go. It'll only take a few minutes. Just get me off and I'll be happy.

That sounds cold and cruel doesn't it. But this isn't a man and his lady friend. This is you and God. You are giving God a quickie! You want God to give you some---some money, some man, some woman, or some job. You are not trying to have any foreplay, consisting of worship, praise, and prayer. You just want Him to drop it off and be on His merrily little way. A couple of moans of please and do it for me and you are out. A lot of us are treating God like a client and we are the prostitute He is paying.

God never wants a quickie from us. He wants intimate time with us. We should spend the first 15 minutes of our day with God. But don't let that be the only interaction with God all day. That should set the course for the day. When you are intimate with someone you are in love with, you want to make love all night long. God wants that same intimacy. Are you making love to God by spending consistent intimate time with Him, or are you hitting Him up and then quitting it?

The only way to have eternal life is to know God and His son, Jesus. We must know that God sent His son to die for our sins. We must also know Christ to be more like Him. Five minute prayers about "me, me, me" isn’t affording you the opportunity to get to know Christ. There must be intimacy with God, which cannot be rushed. Stop treating God like a random hookup and give Him the love and intimacy He deserves from you.

Monday, March 17, 2014


Hello My Faithful Readers,

I first would like to say that each and every one of you that stopped by to read my blog this morning is greatly appreciated. I know I've been absent and not as dedicated to my blog as once before. I got to the point in my life where I was overwhelmed and had to LET SOMETHING GO; not indefinitely but something in my life had to take the back burner for a while. Unfortunately, that was my blog. I am now back into a consistent routine of things and decided to pick up where I left off. Your patience and loyalty is why I continue doing this. 


Therefore, let's spring clean. As of lately, there were certain areas in my life that was causing a great load of negativity. I continued carrying these loads privately, pretending I was okay and expecting things to get better. CRAZY, I KNOW! That's when other situations started to arise and I again followed the same pattern. I believed I was supposed to be the burden carrier. Manipulating myself to believe that if I kept quit and pretend to be okay, things would eventually get better. It cannot rain forever, right?

DEFINITELY WAS I WRONG! I would have numerous conversations with God saying, "please see me through. I am not asking you to take the situations away but I am asking for you to give me the strength". I promise you I had this conversation at least four times a week. Then it dawned on me yesterday morning, maybe I am holding onto these situations too long. I am giving people too much power. I am allowing negativity to consume my day. All traits God never told me I had to accept or bear. So why am I tolerating less than anything that isn't serving a purpose in my life?

I am hear to announce to anybody that may feel as I once did, ITS TIME TO SPRING CLEAN! I want a fruitful marriage, all blessings coming my way, to build an empire, to bless others and be the woman God intended for me to become. BUT in order to receive these things I am asking for, I have to make room. ITS TIME TO LET GO OF ANYTHING HINDER YOUR HAPPINESS! Let go of validation from other people and sometimes you have to let go of people. You cannot live out your purpose, if you are too busying living life the way others see fit for you. You cannot live out your happiness, if you are seeking the approval and validation of others. 

I am challenging you to empty your wagon of leeches, negativity, stress and pain, and replenish it with purpose, happiness, peace and love. It's a new season and I refuse to enter into it with anything other than what is for me. YOU HAVE THREE DAYS TO SPRING CLEAN!

Tuesday, February 18, 2014

Replenishing Your Wagon: Becoming Intentional

God has really been laying on my heart a few main things to focus on this year. I already shared that I felt God wanted me to focus on “goals” this year, but I believe that I have a second word for 2014.
I want to be intentional.
I believe that every moment we have on this earth is a precious gift from God. I do not want to waste the time that I have been given by not being intentional about the way I spend it. Preparing to be a stay at home wife has made the need to be intentional even more important for me. I will not have a bunch of deadlines to meet, I will not have a strict schedule that I have to abide by; it will be really easy to let time get by me. Now, I know I am not just going to sit around doing nothing. I will have responsibilities; continuing my education, taking care of my husband, working out and starting our business adventures – but I don’t want to just do those things, I want to be intentional about doing those things. Being intentional about my day allows me to take control of my time so it doesn’t control me.  
Aside from just being intentional with my time, I want to be intentional in my relationships. I want to be intentional as a wife, encouraging and building my husband up, taking advantage of the quiet moments we have together. I want to be intentional as a friend, looking for ways to encourage and support those that I love. I want to be intentional about developing friendships in whichever new city we will live in. I want to be intentional in volunteering because giving back it so near to my heart. I want to be intentional with all that God has placed in my hands in this season of life.
Time is a blessing, and to get the most out of that blessing we must be intentional. I do not want to allow life to just happen, I want to live life intentionally.
“Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.”
 Proverbs 4:23

Friday, February 7, 2014

Love You Til Ifiniti ...

I may be a little early with the traditional valentine’s day post. Oh well, that is not the reason I am creating this post. I could care less about a man made holiday. I want to share a piece of my happiness when I allowed God to lead me. Many of you know Omar as the professional basketball player; the compassionate, ambitious and hardworking man on the court.
I want to take you behind closed doors of our household. When he takes off the uniform, drops his smelly shoes in the garage and transforms into my assigned king.
Omar known as “juice” or “oj” to many, is first and foremost my best friend. Before we entered a relationship, we first were friends. Something so causal turned into something I never want to live without. His presence gives me butterflies and touch brings me weak to my knees. The comfort and security I feel when I lay my head every night on his chest before falling sleep. The moments I cherish when our teams play against each other and we run around the house making the other feel salty after a win, talking trash and wrestling. Or the lazy movie days when we debate how long I will last before falling asleep. The man that cannot boil water and served frozen in the middle chicken to me. But he tried to make it up to me by cooking alfredo pasta for me with noodles, cheese and ranch. HORRIBLE! The man that spoils me within reason, I will always work hard towards whatever gift he gives. He doesn’t believe in handouts. Maintaining a 4.0 while working full time isn’t for the weak. The man that requires much from his woman; being fragile isn’t an option. You take the hurdles the world delivers and keep it moving, no time to sit around and soak in your emotions because the next person is already getting a head. The man that excepts his woman to wear many caps; assistant (this assistant needs an assistant), financial advisor, accountant, manager, CEO of his fan club, top chef, house cleaner and drunk in love (lol). He only understands swipe, transfer and sign. But after my God and my father/stepfather, he is a great provider. He has helped create this fierce, independently dependent, goal driver and well accomplished woman. I love this woman just as much as he does.

I owe it all to God. Had I still chased the desires of my flesh, there is no telling where I would be right now. The day I accepted God as my provider and savior, He has never steered me wrong.

Do you need direction in your life? Ask yourself, “Am I acknowledging God in all my ways?” In other words, is He first place in your life? All throughout the day, we should be acknowledging God, asking for His help, seeking His wisdom, obeying His commands and thanking Him for His goodness.

In the morning, we should wake up and say, “Father, thank You for another beautiful day. I commit this day, my plans and my future into Your hands.” When you start the day like this, you are acknowledging God. He promises to crown your day with success. When you are driving on the freeway say, “Father, thank You for keeping me safe.” At the office say, “Lord, help me to be focused and productive today.” At home, “Father, bless my family.” Before you go to bed, “Lord, thank You for a good night’s rest.” When you’re acknowledging Him in all your ways, He promises to direct your paths. He promises to lead and guide you into paths of peace, joy and everlasting life!

Friday, January 31, 2014

Your Thoughts Are What's Killing You ...

Good Morning Readers,
Normally, I try my absolute best to get a blog out in the beginning of the week. This week was one of those that I couldn’t find time until now. Please forgive me unpunctuality.
Yesterday, I came across a picture on social media that grasped my undivided attention.
“Your thoughts are what is killing you”
Have you ever set back and analyzed how disapprovingly you can be towards yourself? I know that I am vigorous on myself daily. I push my mind and body to its limitations every week. I am so forced and driven right now, that I sometimes forget to reminisce how far I’ve come. I should be proud of myself and not so critical. Your thoughts are what is captivates your mind. Those thoughts are your setback. Those opinions and hurtful words are draining your energy. You are busy trying to fight the enemies of the world, how do you have time to fight yourself? I am asking you to learn to appreciate the person you’ve developed within you before you kill her [him]. You are beautiful and wonderful made and nobody can take that away from you, except YOU.
A man who was completely innocent, offered himself as a sacrifice for the good of others, including his enemies, and became the ransom of the world. It was a perfect act.” – via Mahatma Gandhi