Thursday, October 30, 2014

Placing One Foot In Front Of The Other

In my opinion [and penalty of others who would agree] KNOWLEDGE IS POWER. When you stop learning, you stop living. Your lack of knowledge places limitations on your future. I am not saying college is for everyone because for the longest I didn’t think it was for me. An educational institution is not the only place information is obtained. I will however say that it’s a great place to start. A university/college will supply you with the necessary essentials to create a better life. Whether you obtain a degree, certificate or a trade, it’s a great start to improving your future.

Despite everything on my very full plate, I decided to enroll in Japanese Learning Classes. I attend a regular classroom setting class twice a week and one-on-one time with a private tutor once a week. I felt learning Japanese would not only help assist me in my current living environment but also afford me the opportunity to speak two different languages. One item that was listed on my visualization board (


Learning a new language will require discipline and organization. The topic of discipline and organization were discussed in our Asia Wag Bible Study last week [next week’s blog topic]. I find myself to be a very organized person but I lack the discipline aspect at times. I can create a goal and/or schedule but the follow through is my major problem. So, with taking on this new task, I am forced to follow a strict schedule because I refuse to allow this opportunity to hind anything I already have going on. I must manage my time appropriately without neglecting my time with God, spiritual growth and my wifely duties. I want to be the ambitious woman but I want happiness first.

Monday, October 27, 2014

Perspective Struggle #MyOverseasDiary

As many of you know I take my spiritual growth seriously. My relationship with God is one that I cherish and hold on a pedestal. My faith alone has been the ONLY reason I've survived my first month overseas. Being honest with myself, yes living abroad can be an amazing experience but it requires the right attitude and perspective. As much as I enjoy the one on one time with my husband, being stripped of your norms is difficult. In the last four months: I've purchased a house, left my job, got married, watched my niece enter this world and now living overseas. A lot of change in a short period of time that had me feeling overwhelmed. Yes, all these things are blessings but when your world makes a total 360 in such a short time, any girl will fold. That's when I relied heavily on my Lord and Savior to help rebuild this puzzle of mine.

I've made the one-month mark of living in Japan. I can honestly say with the help of T.D. Jakes, I had my first successful week. I had no "struggle days" as I tend to call them. I challenged my attitude in two ways:

[1] Is my perceptive destroying and/or placing limitations on my experience?
[2] Is my perceptive turning a blessing into ungratefulness?

When it all boils down to it my attitude towards this experience determined my reality. The more open-minded I became the easier it was to adjust. Yes, Japan isn't America but that doesn't mean you can't create new norms for yourself. God has given me this opportunity for a reason. He has stripped me of the things I am accustomed too; therefore, I can focus on what is important. Starting with the growth within me, which will in-turn will strengthen my marriage and help produce a strong-minded business owner. I know that I may fall short of a perfect week sometimes but I will never stop trying. One successful week down, twenty-four more to go. I am a work in progress.

Thursday, October 23, 2014

Transformational Instinct - Knowledge is Power

Okay, so here I go again trying to force you all to watch another thirty-minute video. I am a firm believer than you can’t lead unless you read or watch informative documentaries. There is free knowledge all around us. I am simply trying to help you access the information quicker. I am committed to spending at least an hour a day stimulating my mind outside of school and business work. I believe these steps will help prepare me for a great 2015. I use to waste more time than that on social media. [I am always setting goals for myself]. I want to be the best form of myself possible, in order for that to happen, I have to change my daily process.

The video below is part four of a five part series called “Transformational Instinct” by T.D. Jakes. If you enjoy this video below, you can find the remaining parts on YouTube. Yes, I watched all five parts before selecting the one I chose to share. Part four was an eye opener, not only to enhance myself but my marriage. I look at it as a two for one special lol.


Iron Sharpens Iron

There is nothing more powerful than the word of God

There is a thin line between Parasites and Friends

The Law of Selectivity

Garbage Can Vs. Refrigerator

Sacrifice [my favorite part in the video 17:25]

Intimacy = Into Me See

Monday, October 20, 2014

God, I Need Answers Because I Know I Am More Than The Labels Placed On Me

My blog has always been about transparency. Today, I will open up about my motivation to succeed in a male thriven world. Being the wife to a well-established man can be very intimating. You can easily get lost in his success that you place your dreams and aspirations in a secret closet and throw away the key. You can easily be categorized as “the stay at home wife” or even worse “the basketball wife”. I am here to take a stand and let people know that I am more than the labels they place on me.

It is a given fact that most of my likes on Instagram and Facebook come from me posting something about my husband rather than myself. Why is that? Am I simply a shadow and/or messenger? Am I simply a pretty face? I don’t think God created me to be a trophy wife or a mail lady [no offense to anyone that works in the postal industry]. Do I stop posting about my husband and force people to focus on whom the page belongs too? No, why should my husband have to suffer at the expense of other’s ignorance. God, I need answers.

How could people easily forget what I gave up to become these false labels they placed upon me? Don’t answer than. I will.

I am one of the hardest working women I know. I believe in myself even when others can’t see passed mediocrity. I strive on encouraging other women to follow their dreams and build their own empire. I give my support at all cause and willing to extend a helping hand. Those are characteristics embedded deep within me. It isn’t charity work to me and I am not expecting a favor later. I know God will always be there when I need a favor.

The lack of support, labels and passion are what motivates me. I am willing to make a believer out of anybody. Those who said I shouldn’t have left corporate America to support my husband, watch. Those who label me as “just some stay at home basketball wife”, watch. Those who think I’ll never be able to succeed, watch. Those who fail to show me support, watch.


"Thy name shall be called no more Jacob [instead of Jacob insert any labels people place on you]" - Genesis 32:27

Thursday, October 16, 2014

Enlighten Me or Get Out The Way #GirlBoss

I know many of you will look at the time frame of the video below and become discouraged to watch it or claim that you don’t have time to watch it. I want to remind you of two things; (1) knowledge is never instant gratification [it will require your time] and (2) you spend more than thirty minutes on social media daily. Now, if you choose to still not watch the video after I eliminated your excuses, all I ask is that you share this video with someone that wants to learn.

If I still have your attention, I wanted to share with you an interview with Black Enterprise conducted by the breakfast club morning show. It’s one of the most enlightening interviews I’ve watched in along time. It not only covered the black community but also entrepreneurial knowledge and women of power.


learned helplessness - black culture believe certain things are beyond us or we shouldn't be doing, even if they are good for you.

black women are the fastest growing entrepreneurial group in today's economy and women in general [all ethnicities] are more likely to invest 

women are more likely to start a business bc (1) the challenges of climbing the corporate ladder & (2) desire for multiple strings of income

60% of business owners are products of a lower middle class family or a poorer [if that's a word] family.

From the Forbes billionaire list to the feminine footprints on the economy, it’s clear women-led businesses are making powerful strides. But don’t get too comfortable. There’s still work to be done and many more barriers to break. We can do it. I want to motivate you to keep going, challenge you to be better, and urge you to think higher to accelerate your business.

Monday, October 13, 2014

Back To The Basic | Holding Yourself Accountable

It’s been a while since I’ve blogged. My decision in taking a break from blogging was intentional. I’ve been so busy with getting married, birth of my niece, the preparation work to launch my own business, moving and adjusting to life in a new country. I must say in the last two months my life has taken on a life of it’s own [if that makes sense]. I sometimes think I need an assistant lol but seriously it gets overwhelming at times. Please don’t make any mistake that this is a great overwhelming feeling. God is continuously blessing my family and I right now and I wouldn’t pray it to be any other way.

Now that I’ve been living in beautiful Hiroshima, Japan for two weeks, I am organizing a schedule that will allow me to get back to blogging. I want to continue inspiring others to pursue their dreams, using the site as an accountability partner for my fitness goals, share my overseas adventures [#MyOverseasDiary] and promoting my new non-profit organization #GirlBoss [which is scheduled to launch January 2015]. Did I forget to mention I am still in school and a new wife? Busy woman huh?  Again, at this point in my life I wouldn’t have it any other way.  Grind now and enjoy the luxury of my success later.

Today, was considered an off day for my husband and I. He didn’t have practice after winning both games this season opener weekend. GO HUBBY’S TEAM! 2-0 BABY! We spent the day sleeping in, caught up on all of our favorite shows, took a wonderful nap and prepared dinner together. In between the time spent together I was able to create a visualization board [something I’ve put off for awhile now]. I think having something to hold your goals accountable is important, therefore; this is the sole purpose for my vision board. With my 26th birthday less than a month away I wanted to create goals I intend to accomplish before turning 30. My visualization board can be located by clicking on the following link Mrs.Reed's Visualization Board

It’s the last quarter of 2014, LET’S GET BACK TO THE BASICS! Start preparing now for a successful 2015. You can also follow my adventures overseas in between blog post on instagram.